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Carla's description was typical of survivors of chronic childhood abuse. Almost always, they deny or minimize the abusive memories. They have to: it's too painful to believe that their parents would do such a thing. So they fragment the memories into hundreds of shards, leaving only acceptable traces in their conscious minds. Rationalizations like "my childhood was rough," "he only did it to me once or twice," and "it wasn't so bad" are common, masking the fact that the abuse was devastating and chronic. But while the knowledge, body sensations, and feelings are shattered, they are not forgotten. They intrude in unexpected ways: through panic attacks and insomnia, through dreams and artwork, through seemingly inexplicable compulsions, and through the shadowy dread of the abusive parent. They live just outside of consciousness like noisy neighbors who bang on the pipes and occasionally show up at the door.
David L. Calof The Couple Who Became Each Other: Storie… abuse addiction alcoholism avoidance denial

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ABUSE 434 clues
DENY 333 clues
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COMPASSION 134 clues
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RECANT 81 clues
HEALING 58 clues
INSOMNIA 56 clues
EMPATHY 37 clues
INTRUSIVE 33 clues
ALCOHOLISM 29 clues
DISSOCIATION 26 clues
FLASHBACK 19 clues
ADDICTION 18 clues
SUBCONSCIOUS 17 clues
SURVIVOR 14 clues

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